10:16 pm - Sat, Apr 19, 2014
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afrafemme:

A friend and I were out with our kids when another family’s two-year-old came up. She began hugging my friend’s 18-month-old, following her around and smiling at her. My friend’s little girl looked like she wasn’t so sure she liked this, and at that moment the other little girl’s mom came up and got down on her little girl’s level to talk to her.

“Honey, can you listen to me for a moment? I’m glad you’ve found a new friend, but you need to make sure to look at her face to see if she likes it when you hug her. And if she doesn’t like it, you need to give her space. Okay?”

Two years old, and already her mother was teaching her about consent.

My daughter Sally likes to color on herself with markers. I tell her it’s her body, so it’s her choice. Sometimes she writes her name, sometimes she draws flowers or patterns. The other day I heard her talking to her brother, a marker in her hand.

“Bobby, do you mind if I color on your leg?”

Bobby smiled and moved himself closer to his sister. She began drawing a pattern on his leg with a marker while he watched, fascinated. Later, she began coloring on the sole of his foot. After each stoke, he pulled his foot back, laughing. I looked over to see what was causing the commotion, and Sally turned to me.

“He doesn’t mind if I do this,” she explained, “he is only moving his foot because it tickles. He thinks its funny.” And she was right. Already Bobby had extended his foot to her again, smiling as he did so.

What I find really fascinating about these two anecdotes is that they both deal with the consent of children not yet old enough to communicate verbally. In both stories, the older child must read the consent of the younger child through nonverbal cues. And even then, consent is not this ambiguous thing that is difficult to understand.

Teaching consent is ongoing, but it starts when children are very young. It involves both teaching children to pay attention to and respect others’ consent (or lack thereof) and teaching children that they should expect their own bodies and their own space to be respected—even by their parents and other relatives.

And if children of two or four can be expected to read the nonverbal cues and expressions of children not yet old enough to talk in order to assess whether there is consent, what excuse do full grown adults have?

I try to do this every day I go to nursery and gosh it makes me so happy to see it done elsewhere.

This is wonderful and the exact beautiful opposite of that hideous thing where parents require their kids to hug their teacher or something before they go home, even if the kid clearly doesn’t want to

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12:01 am - Fri, Apr 18, 2014
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Will this feeling ever go away?

Will this feeling ever go away?

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11:46 pm - Thu, Apr 17, 2014

Husband is working nights all week and I HATE this. So grateful it’s not all the time.

11:57 pm - Wed, Apr 16, 2014
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fuck-bitches-get-bacon:

no matter how sad I am this never fails to make me laugh

fuck-bitches-get-bacon:

no matter how sad I am this never fails to make me laugh

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baby-fish-mouth:

i insist

I NEED

baby-fish-mouth:

i insist

I NEED

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how much do islands cost i want one

Less than a college education

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what the fuck

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12:31 am - Thu, Apr 10, 2014
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So many wonderful things. Horses. Finally getting some time with friends, a sister that comes to visit me at work, reading a book that fills me with hope,set plans to see my sweet baby nieces and announcement of a dearly missed friend coming to visit. Also exciting new job prospect and relinquishing of a major stresser. What did I do to deserve this? After a rough start to the year, I am delighted by the recent turn of events.

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